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Writing Vows 
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If there was ever any way to make your ceremony unique, it's in the act of 
written personal wedding vows. 
They allow you to not only honestly express the way you feel, but also 
express who the two of you are individually and as partners. 
Wedding planners, when asked to help the couple with ideas for vows, 
sometimes have a questionnaire for them to each fill out separately and 
then compare their notes together. It usually consists of a few questions, 
designed to get both of your minds (and hearts) focused on what moves 
both of you when you think of the other. 
We've outlined the questionnaire below. It works if you both find a relaxed 
place where you can think and let your feelings out on paper, by yourself, 
as you each go over them. 

It doesn't have to be perfect when you first write the answers, it just has 
to come from your heart and soul. 
Trust me, you will do fine, if you just try to be sincere. Don't try to make 
it overly 'sugary', just make it the real way you honestly feel. Answer 
the questions as openly as you can and everything will work out just fine, 
watch and see. 
Remember, do this first section separately, not together in the same room. 
Allow yourselves enough time (without disturbing each other) to finish 
comfortably. Make sure you aren't rushed. Try putting on some of your 
favorite music softly, sit in your favorite chair in a room that's comfortable, 
and see if that helps you with the flow. 
In the second part, the two of you will compare notes, unless of course 
you want the vows to be a surprise. 
However, I highly recommend you consider doing this together. You will 
bond your relationship more with the truth here that you share with each 
other. In addition, at the wedding you're both going to be very nervous. 
Practicing the 5 or 6 lines that you come up with through this exercise is 
going to make you more comfortable, and you will know your partner is 
moved by what you wrote beforehand.